98. Taking Care of You

In episode 98 of the Curate Your Life Podcast, Temetria discusses the importance of self-care and tuning into your emotional and physical needs. As a single woman in midlife, she emphasizes the need for women, often caught up in taking care of others, to prioritize their own mental and physical well-being. She shares insights on listening to one's inner voice and intuition, taking time for self, and not always compromising for the sake of others. Temetria also touches on the practice of gratitude and the significance of appreciating one's own efforts and journey.

00:00 Introduction to Curate Your Life Podcast
00:40 This Week's Theme: Taking Care of You
01:43 Tuning Into Your Needs
04:53 Trusting Your Intuition
06:42 Advocating for Yourself
09:20 Gratitude and Conclusion

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Transcript

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You're listening to the curate your life podcast with Temetria episode 98, taking care of you.

Temetria 0:08

Hi, I'm Temetria a single woman in midlife. But not quite ready for the Moomoo life. I'm focused on curating a life that I love. A life that is bold and vibrant and full of purpose. And I'm passionate about helping other women do the same. So join me. If you're ready to create curate a big, bold, beautiful life that you love.

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Hi. Y'all okay. So this week, this is probably going to be a little bit of a hodgepodge. But it's because. I have been, I feel like I've been getting this message from different places. And different and in different ways. So. The title of this is called taking care of you. And. I want to talk about that. And I want to talk about tapping in and listening to the voice. In side. So. Taking care of you. And I just recorded a video of the healthy habits video for the simply curated series. And this is not really going to be the sleep drink, water don't snack. I'm giving you a quick rundown of it. And, you know, Move your body and meditate and quiet your mind. Sometimes that's what that video is. This is more. Really tuning into. Who you are. What you need and why. And so really just tapping in. To you like. I imagine it as being. As attentive to yourself and your needs as you would a little baby, right? You'd think about really when they need to eat when they need to sleep. Making sure they're warm in. You've probably play with them to make. You know, make them laugh and make them happy and console them if they were crying. So. Really tapping into tuning into what's going on with you emotionally. There's been a lot going on the last. Hell, let's just say 20 years. It feels like, right. But there, there is just a lot going on in life and. I think especially women, we just, we muscle on. Right. We keep going. We keep taking care of everybody. And I think you need to. Stop. And. Really. Feel what you need to feel and really tap in and check in with yourself sometime. And spend some time on your mental wellness, your mental wellbeing. And part of that is figuring out what you need for your mental wellness and for your mental wellbeing. Is it. Time with a friend. Is it time with family? Is it time alone? Is it an escape in a good book? Like what do you need and giving yourself that time? To have that thing that you need. It's paying attention to your body. It's not ignoring any signs that you're getting from your body. Anything that you need to get checked out, it's resting when you need to rest, it's fueling it properly. But. Well, those are some of the habits that I talked about, right. For the healthy habits. But it's knowing that you need to do those and it's doing them. And not waiting until. You're just totally worn out and you have nothing else to give and collapsing. That's not paying attention and honoring your body. It's doing it on a regular basis. So really tuning into. Your needs, what you need and why, and understanding that none of that is selfish. You taking care of you and putting yourself first and. Focusing on your mental and physical health. Will not take anything away from any of the people in your life that you love and care about. And take care of. It will just mean that you are better equipped in a better place to do the things that you want to do to take care of the people that you want to take care of yeah. And the other thing that I want to talk about is really tapping into your wisdom and your knowing and your intuition. And trusting that. I think a lot of times as women with the external messages that we get, we stop. Trusting that and stop relying on that and stop tapping into it. And I want to say. It's there for a reason. And. We should trust that intuition. That female intuition and tap into that. And trust the wisdom that you have acquired and honed in your time on this earth and speak up and be bold about it. I was just talking to a group of women and it came up that in our forties. Is kind of when it starts. And we're talking about that and talking about. As we move into mid-life we start to speak up more and to give less cares is what I will say to keep it clean, but to really. Tune into the voice inside and tap into that and trust that more than the external messages that we're giving. And to give more credit. To the voice inside than the ones outside. And one of the things that I said, and I said, I'm like, this may sound awful. And I don't mean it to be awful. So I want you to hear it. From the lens of. Taking care of you, which is the. Title of this podcast. But I decided. Probably. Four or five years ago. If somebody has to be unhappy in a situation, it does not have to be me. And that doesn't mean that I want the other person to be unhappy. But that means that I don't always have to take it on. I don't always have to be the one compromising apologizing shrinking. It does not have to be me. And so what I want to say is, It does not have to be you. Automatically right. Think about it. There may be times when I'm like, okay. Is this worth it. I'm going to let this go. I'm going to compromise. I'm willing to maybe put my wants on the back burner. Not my needs. And maybe put my wants on the back burner and be okay with that. But that doesn't always have to happen. And I will tell you that it happens less now than it used to because I will speak up and advocate for myself. I tap into that inner voice and I trust it and I speak up for that child. If we're going back to taking care of yourself and caring for yourself, like the child that I talked about at the beginning. I speak up for her. Because if I'm not going to do it, who's doing it. And that's what I want to say about taking care of you. Be selfish. B about self, not the selfish that we've been taught. That meant if you were taking care of you, somebody else was not being taken care of, take care of you. So that if you choose to, you can take care of others and also know that sometimes you can make a choice. That someone else may not be happy with. And it's okay. It's okay. It doesn't make you a bad person. You don't always have to be the one to bend or fold or compromise. I'm going to leave that here. I'm sure there are going to be people who disagree, who may not hear the message that I'm hopefully getting across that I want to get across. That it's okay to put yourself first and to take care of you first and then take care of others. And sometimes it's okay to just take care of you. And not take care of anybody else. And we're still all going to be okay. So that's what I want to. Say here. I also want to add. On this is dropping on the Tuesday of Thanksgiving. I want to sit with a little gratitude that I try to live in. Daily in my journal, there, there is a place for things you're grateful for and I write it. Every day. And so I want to. Express some gratitude to you. And I want to thank you for. Being part of this. For 98 episodes. I want to thank you for showing up. I want to thank you for coming back. And I'm going to thank me, I guess. Taking a cue from Snoop dog. But I'm serious. I think this is part of taking care of you too. So I want to say this. I want you to spend some time. Really being grateful. To yourself for the work you've put in for the things you've done for the work you've put in for yourself. For all the things that you've done for other people. Be grateful for that. Be grateful for the, you who showed up to take care of yourself to do the things that are going to keep you going to do the work, to get you to the life that you have. For the, you who's willing to do the work to get you to the next step. Be grateful for all of that. I'm grateful for the me. Who keeps showing up, who's doing this work, who's building this business. And again, I'm grateful for you for being part of this journey. I hope you stay with me. If I can help you in any way. I would love to be part of your journey and work with you. One-on-one. To help you take your life to that next level, to help you really curate the life that you want to live. So thank you for being part of this. Until next time.