88. Ignite the Fire in Your Soul

Finding Your Spark: Lessons from 'The Bear'

In this episode of the Curate Your Life podcast, Temetria shares profound lessons gleaned from the Hulu show 'The Bear.' The discussion revolves around a pivotal moment between characters Sydney and Tina, emphasizing the transformative power of believing in oneself. She underscores that while life isn’t a TV show, it’s crucial to recognize and activate your inner desires and possibilities, especially in midlife. The episode also highlights the importance of self-belief and offers insights into the 'Curate Your Life' program, aimed at helping women achieve fulfilling lives.

00:00 Introduction to Curate Your Life Podcast
00:16 Lessons from TV Shows
00:33 The Bear: A Profound Lesson
01:14 Spoiler Alert: Key Moments in The Bear
02:56 Tina's Transformation
05:11 The Power of Belief
08:19 Curate Your Life Program
08:39 Personal Journey and Motivation
11:28 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

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Transcript

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Welcome to the curate your life podcast with two Matria where we focus on curating the life you've been dreaming about. One goal at a time. So you can make the rest of your life, the best of your life. Okay. Y'all know, I love my lessons from TV, or it would seem that I love my lessons from TV because. I've offered lessons from Ted lasso and lessons from the Olympics. And now my latest lesson that I'm offering. Just landed so profoundly while I was watching the bear. It's a Hulu show and it's about an esteemed up and coming chef. Who's being pulled back into the family restaurant business and the family drama that comes along with it. And it's a really, really good show. And it just started watching it. A couple of weeks ago and I'm already. On season three. So I've been doing some bingeing. But one good thing about me being late to some of these TV shows and bringing the lessons is that hopefully. I'm not spoiling anything for you. So, if you haven't watched the bear and you're thinking about watching it, you might want to skip this episode until you are past. The first episode of season two, but when you're past that, come back and listen to this lesson and see if you agree with me, but if you're not past the first episode of season two, Don't listen, if you are going to be upset about spoilers. But if you watch, just let me know if this lesson resonates with you and I hope it does. So, this was a really big moment between Sydney and Tina and the first episode of 22. And to bring you the lesson. I really have to spill the beans on what happened between the two of them. At the end of season one and into season two, they're making big changes to the restaurant, basically a complete overhaul because they're taking things to the next level, not only the restaurant, but the staff everybody's going to the next level. Karma is going to be kind of the big head chef and I guess, general manager. Of the restaurant. Sydney is now going to be the chef running kind of the day-to-day operations. And that leaves an opening versus chef. And they're sending Marcus to Copenhagen. I think it was Copenhagen. To learn about all things desserts. Right? So everybody's growing. And it's Tina, who is actually one of the OT staff members who was there when Mikey Kharms brother was running the place, who points out the fact that there will now be this opening for Suchet. She mentions it to Sydney in passing and Sydney is the one who's vacating the position, right. He's going to be moving up. And just a little backstory on Tina. She has worked in the restaurant forever. And was used to the old way of doing things and how it ran. And was used to working with Mikey. Who's now gone. And when Sydney came in as the new sous chef and somebody who was formerly trained and had ideas and wanted to do things the new way, the right way, right? The way an up-skill. Restaurant or kitchen was run. Tina was resentful. She saw Sydney as the new girl who came in with all of her knowledge and her new ways. And you could see that she felt like she was being pushed out or maybe become an obsolete. You could just fill that in there. Interactions and in the acting. And then like the world unfolds in TV land. There is a moment when something happens that Sydney does and it softens Tina up and she begins to warm up and embrace the things that are changing in the restaurant. She gets on board, right. She starts wearing the uniform that she was at first resistant to wearing, and she's open to learning new things and new ways and doing new things. And like I said, she brings up the vacancy. That's going to be happening in passing when she's talking to Sydney. So later in the episode, Sydney realizes that they have the perfect person for that position and she approaches Tina and she brings up the fact that they're going to need a sous chef. And Tina thinks that she's asking her to recommend somebody or asking if she knows someone for the position. But Sydney. Ask her, if she wants to do it, if she wants to go. Be trained while the restaurant is shut down for the remodel. And when Tina realizes that this transformation happens, She just lights up. She starts beaming. And you can feel like her whole being just shifted and lifted and. She stood up straighter. And what happened? In that moment is the power. Of being seen of having someone believe in you. So in the show, Tina is probably supposed to be in her fifties. I don't think sixties, because this lady does not look like she's in her sixties. So I would say she's supposed to be in her fifties. I would imagine. And because she's older, you can see it, you can feel it in her character and her acting that she feels like. She's assuming that it's too late for anything new, that there won't be opportunities or places for real profound growth in change. Or to use one of my least favorite phrases, you can kind of see that she feels like it is what it is. Right. And she's made her peace with that. She's okay. With that fact of life, she's just kind of accepted it. But when Sydney suggests that she be the one that moved to the sous chef position. It's like Sydney is pouring belief into her. That filled her up and brought her back to life. And the lesson that I want to give you is it that is TV and we don't live in a TB world. We're not always going to have somebody or it's going to be very rare to have someone who is going to come to you and give you. That permission give you that thing that you need to fill you up to show you the possibilities. Because like I said, we don't live in a TB world. We're living in the real world. And it may not be that somebody doesn't believe in you, they just might not know that you need to hear it or that you need to know it. You have to be the one to tap into your soul first. And acknowledged that there is a desire for more. And then you have to give yourself permission to believe in. The possibility and to go forward. Because what I saw when Sidney suggested that Tina was the person that they want it for, the new sous chef and that they were willing to invest and believe in her was that she felt that somebody saw and understood what she wasn't able to verbalize, or maybe that she was afraid to verbalize. Or maybe that she didn't see it for herself. And somebody else had to show her, but you could see instantly that something came to life in her. And I'm going to call that the spark of possibility. I think possibility is like a pilot light that burns in us. And it burns brighter and stronger and we use it more. We tap into it more. When we're younger, we rely on it then. So it's always lit. It's always going, but sometimes in midlife, we think our pilot light has gone out. But it's not that it's gone out. We just have to turn up the gas on that plane. We have to give it a little oxygen to get it going again. And that is one of the things that I hope my clients with that is my whole curate your life program. That's what it's all about. Finding that spark again and creating the life you love. And a life that's fulfilling and that sparks joy. And that's what I did. Y'all I started this coaching practice in earnest full time a year ago, a little over a year ago. And I didn't wait for somebody to say, Hey, you can do this. I decided that I can do this. I can make it happen. I am making it happen. And that's why the other night, Saturday night at 6:42 PM. I was here in my office working instead of being out with friends. Although, I don't even know if they were out. But in my mind, the world was out on a Saturday night having a nice dinner and I was home working. And whether that's true or not, I don't know what is true was that I was okay with being homeworking. Because I do have that fire in my soul. I do have that, something that is important to me, that I want to share with the world and. The main thing is that. I want the world to know. I want women in midlife to know. That it is all still possible. You can, and it's not too late. It's what I want you to know. And so. I was living that Saturday night when I was here working on some things that I'll be bringing to you soon, but I had that fire, I had that desire and that passion. And if you don't know what that is for you. Let me help you figure it out. That's part of the curate your life process. Figuring out what that spark is, where the pilot light is and putting gas to it, to just work this metaphor into the ground. But really that is the, that's the process of the curate your life. Program. We sit down and we spend time getting crystal clear. On what you want for your life, what you want for yourself. Nevermind the sheds, nevermind. What you think is supposed to be what society tells you. It's supposed to be. It's what you want for your life. And how you can get it. We. Create the vision. We outline the steps. We make the plan. And then I am with you on your accountability partner. I am your sounding board. I'm your cheerleader. When you need a cheerleader. And you work on it until you get there. I hope you keep that pilot light lit in your soul in case it starts to go out. But I'm right there with you. Step-by-step helping you get to the life that you want because you can, and it's not too late. I might have to change my tagline. I do have a workshop about that. But that was the lesson that I got from the bear. Again, hopefully it wasn't a spoiler for you, but if it was, hopefully it was a spoiler that was worth it. It would still be really worth it to watch the show. Even if I've given away that one little thing, it's a fantastic show with lessons all over the place. And that's a thing about life. The lessons are there. They're not just on TV. They're everywhere. If you're willing to see them, if you're willing to. Take them in and see what it means for you. Believe what it means to you? The messages are there. One of my favorite quotes from Oprah is that. God. Will. Give you a crisper. And then maybe he'll like throw a pebble and I'm messing up this quote. I know that I am. But. It's a whisper and then it's a tap on the shoulder or a pebble, and then it's a rock. So get the lesson, take the lesson. When it's a whisper. Don't need to be knocked over the head with it basically is what she's saying. That's what I have for you. Feel like I got fired up at the end, but I just think it's so, so important. I think if you're 40 or 50, more than likely you still have another 30, 40 years on this earth, hopefully. Live it the way you want to live it. CRE eight, curate the life. That you want. Until next time.