In this episode of the 'Curate Your Life' podcast, host Temetria emphasizes the importance of taking responsibility for one's life and encourages listeners to reflect on their accomplishments, big or small. She discusses the human tendency to focus on negatives and the societal expectations that often downplay women's achievements. Temetria challenges listeners to actively recognize and celebrate their successes, highlighting how this practice can empower individuals and pave the way for more meaningful discussions and goals. As a part of this, she introduces 'Woo-hoo Wednesdays' in the podcast's Facebook group, a space for women to share and celebrate their victories in a supportive environment.
00:00 Welcome and Introduction
00:09 Taking Responsibility for Your Life
00:56 The Challenge of Recognizing Our Achievements
03:42 Empowering Women to Celebrate Their Strengths
04:33 Assignment: Blow Your Own Horn
05:13 Join the Curate Your Life Community
06:31 Closing Thoughts and Invitation
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Welcome to the Curate Your Life podcast with Temetria, where we focus on curating the life you've been dreaming of, one goal at a time.
So last week, I told you that you needed to take 100% responsibility for your life. Whether you liked where you were in Life or not was 100% a result of the choices you've made and the actions you've taken in your life. I asked you to think about that and to think about how that is true for you.
If your life is not exactly perfect or your ideal vision of where you want to be, and if you're like most people, you probably spent some time thinking about all of the things that you could have done better or that you did wrong or all of the things that you should have done. And, it probably took no time to come up with the list or remember all of those things because your human brain leans toward the negative and has those stories on repeat.
We are so quick to come up with what we've done wrong, what we can do better, or all the things that we should have done. Especially as women, we can so easily pick ourselves apart and find all the flaws and the mistakes, but it takes a lot more effort for us to figure out and list and say out loud all of the things that we've done right, the things that we were good at, and what our superpowers are.
I would be willing to bet that you have many superpowers and impressive accomplishments. But it's easy and natural for you to tell me all of the ways that you can do better.
I would also be willing to bet that your family, friends, and coworkers could probably rattle off a list a mile long, and you would dismiss them all because that is what we do as women.
“Oh, that was no big deal.”
“Oh, I just wanted to help.”
“Oh, it needed to be done, so I took care of it.”
And, I bet the fact of the matter was that you just took care of it while…
You built a career, maybe raised kids, managed a household, and volunteered. And you did all of those things with a smile on your face, even when you didn’t feel like doing them or smiling about them and before you even thought about yourself.
So, I think it would be fantastic if you stopped and put pen to paper (so you have it to look back on) and listed all of your accomplishments today.
Big and small
Everything that you are proud of.
All the times when you surprised yourself.
All the times, it was hard, but you did it anyway.
All the victories snatched from the jaws of defeat.
All the times you got up when life knocked you down.
Because I know you have done some remarkable things. Honestly, I’m thinking about relatives and friends I know.
They shrug off some of the remarkable things they have done. I know we were raised to be nice, polite, and ladylike, and the boys were raised to be tough, go-getters, winners, and strong.
Well, guess what? We can be all those things - nice, polite, ladylike (badass ladylike), tough, winning, strong go-getters.
We can do this for ourselves, and it's important that we do this for ourselves and that we stand tall and in all your glory without apology, but we must normalize for our daughters so we can move on to bigger and more important conversations - than taking up space.
Rant over.
I leave you with your assignment should you choose to accept it.
Blow your own horn! Loudly and often!
You need to do this because as you go along, getting all of the things done, taking care of all the people, taking on all of the responsibilities, you are so focused on getting it done and getting to the next thing that you don’t stop to celebrate what you have accomplished. You just check the thing off the list, and then you are like, okay, what’s next?
This has become really apparent to me because in the Curate your life Facebook group, I have a space and time each week where I invite the women in that private Facebook group to celebrate themselves and tell us what they're proud of and what they've accomplished during the week and it's pretty much crickets. Crickets. We rarely have anybody other than me listing things in there, saying what they're proud of, saying what they accomplished, or what they're happy about. And that may be because of the algorithm, maybe, but I really think it's because we have been socialized not to toot our own horns.
But I want to change that. If you need a safe, welcoming place to toot your horn, come and do that. Come over to the Curate Your Life Facebook group where we have woohoo Wednesdays.
If you'd like to talk about why you don't toot your own horn or if there are things that you have on your list that you want to do before you toot your horn, schedule a consultation with me. I’ll be happy to talk to you about it. Until next time…